Every mediator has a different approach to the process so all participants must be comfortable with the mediator's personal style. Some mediators use an evaluative style: freely evaluating the strengths and weaknesses of each side's case (in private sessions), to help them assess their alternatives and make wise choices in the mediation. Other mediators are more facilitative: refraining from asserting their judgments and instead facilitating a conversation that draws out the assessments of the spouses themselves. Transformative mediators are somewhat similar to facilitative mediators in that they are focused on the spouses needs and points of view. In transformative mediation, the spouses control both the process and the outcome. At Balakhane Mediation, we are experienced in all of these approaches when appropriate and may even ask the participants for their input regarding their desired approach. We will manage the process in a way that moves participants forward, toward a resolution, with the spouses own unique goals and interests as a guide.